How do I get my life together?

Almost divorce. I have a 5 year old son and i'm doing my best to be there for him. I live far away from my family so i have no family support so it is just me supporting myself. A minority in an all white community and no friends. Got laid off from my job and baby moma takes advantage of me using my son all the time. I'm just a single father that is trying to make a better life for myself but don't know where to start. I attended church a couple of times and although the people are nice there, i still feel out of place. I basically feel like a lonely alien here. How the hell am i suppose to survive through this? I'm trying to man up and deal with this reality but at the same time, i am scared shitless about my life right now.