Can anyone help me figure this out?

what you look like and the actions you do aren't the most important things. you do these things witout realising because of your emotions. i'am a lesbian and i don't fantasize about men but i know what you mean about telling people when you're not even sure yourself. it is always easier talking to someone about it especially if they have been in a similar situation but its your business so its up to you. you are what you are and i hope you find out soon and hope things work out :)