The first man I allowed into my life after my fianc�e and I split was a great guy...?

The first man I allowed into my life after my fianc�e and I split was an amazing guy, but I was nervous it was new, I back on the dating scene and I felt as though I was doing something wrong. so I kept him at arms length, he understood and took his time but stayed right there letting me know his interest. It's been over 2 years, he's still around but as one of my good friends since I always passed on his advances or laughed it off or disappeared, meanwhile dating all the WRONG men... recently my grandfather who raised me as a daughter passed and it got me to reflect on alot, especially things referring to the type man he wanted for me. It's the guy, he has always been good to me and even if it isnt till death do us part, I never notice all I could want was right there in front of me, he used to make jokes during the course of time we've known each other how we would one day marry, or be together now I'm ready and want that but he's sorta stand offish, and recently said its weird me saying ok I;m ready or showing interest cause he's used to coming after me... did I blow it or is there some way for use to get together